1. Ask yourself what do you want?
Knowing what you want is the first step for you to get it. If you do not know what you want, how are you expected to get it? Many people know what they do not want, but it does not help them get what they want.
Walking through life with a clear sense of what you do not want is not enough to strengthen you. It's like going shopping with a list of items you do not want to buy. It can help keep you away from what you do not want, but it does not help you get what you want.
So ask yourself: "What do I want?" and keep listening until you hear an answer from the inside.
2. Ask yourself: What prevents me from getting what I want?
This is an interesting question to ask yourself and probably you will end up responding to a mixture of doubts (Perhaps I do not want is the right kind of goal for me).
limiting religion (I can not reach / I do not understand what I want).
attachment (Well, it would be nice to understand what I want, but then I have to give up x).
resource issues (I love getting what I want, I'm able to get it, I deserve to get it, but I simply do not have the resources I need to get it).
3. Deal with your doubts
When you have a moment of peace, shut your eyes and show yourself to your goal. Make it like a 3D movie with you inside the movie as a main actor. See, hear, feel, smell and taste what it's like to get what you're after. Make it even more real by enhancing the sound and color of the image.
Achieving this goal does not fully meet you, make changes to it and rebuild the image until you are completely satisfied and undoubtedly exclude that this goal is right for you.
4. Dealing with Your Limiting Faith
This can be a little tricky, because some of our restrictive beliefs about our self, others and the world stem from distant past and are hard to unforgettable. If you think you have a limited attitude that interferes with you, but you find it difficult to analyze and constructively deal with them, you might want to get professional help from a coach or therapist.
If you can define a limiting religion, talk to it internally, as if it were a human being. Ask: "What's your desire for me?" Limited attitudes are often protective methods that try to secure us from experiencing some kind of suffering we have experienced in the past; So when you ask this question, you're likely to get internal feedback like "To keep you safe, to keep you from x coming back."
When you know what your limiting belief is trying to reach you, you can start talks with the beliefs of what you could do to fulfill your purpose for you (for example, be safe) and at the same time go ahead with your goal (eg "commit to a federation").
5. Find out your current situation is for you
It's a very simple program that all men (and animals) survive: "Maximize happiness, reduce suffering." Of course, there are different stratgies that people use to maximize happiness and they are not all well. But the program is quite comprehensive.
Even people who seem to be happy often get something positive from their misery (eg attention, reason to not participate in something they do not like, etc.). As provocative as it sounds, if you've been unhappy The situation for a while, you're likely to get something out of it, because otherwise you would have moved on.
Consider this story: Businessman was moved to a new position that meant he needed to travel worldwide. After a while in this new position, he took up the habit he had given up for 10 years: Smoking. He was in touch with it, because he had never forgotten smoking after he had given up. "Why did I start smoking again?" He asked himself.
Later, with the help of experts, he realized that he had done it, as it helped him to partner. In a job where he spent only a short while with an ever changing group of people, meat smoked an easy way to connect with others. When he realized that he had started smoking again, he picked it up once more. He had to cope with the challenge of learning how to partner with others first.
If you want to move to the goal, you must first be clear about what you want to keep from your current situation. The change lasts only in the end. If you want to change your life, make sure that it maintains the best features of your current state and throw away all the things you do not like.
Take good care of all the positive side effects that current circumstances bring and try to integrate as many of them into your goals. This will make it easier for you to achieve and maintain your future.
If your problems are solely for resources, make a decision to try to access existing resources and create new ones. This can be a strong way, but it might be easier to deal with than doubts, limit your attitude and attachment. External obstacles are often easier to overcome than internal ones.
6. One Step At A Time
Do not bite more than you can chew, but make sure you take a bit to get you started toward your goal. Move in a pace that's comfortable for you, but not too comfortable, otherwise you'll relax. When you start investing time and energy in your goal, you'll find it changing quickly
Your Feeling About Yourself
Your Relationships With Others
And Most Important The Goal itself will start to change. Yes, that's right, when you're after your goal, it will start to change, maybe a little, maybe a lot, but it will definitely change. It's useful for you to understand that this is a normal thing.
Life is a system that consists of many things, such as starting to change an active part of the system (following your goals), all other parts of the system will change, allowing you to re-evaluate your goals.
Keep calm as all of these changes appear in front of your eyes and trust yourself. With a quiet perseverance, you will reach your goal, even if it ends up looking very different from the way it looked when you first put it.
7. Playing a Big Game
Playing a bigger game has to do by setting goals that not only satisfy you as an individual, but also involve some kind of selflessness and benefit others.
It also has to do with stretching. If you do not feel less, maybe even uncomfortable and challenging, you're not playing a bigger game.
Playing a bigger game means traveling on the unknown, as you will be a tool for higher purposes. It requires you to provide a certain deposit. It is certainly not a good game to play for simulations.
Why play a bigger game? Because there is no fun in life without playing a bigger game.