You are a diamond.
I've always said that every person was a diamond hidden in the ground. The beginning of a personal development process is to dig up the diamond and clean up the mud, get rid of negative emotions, negative self-esteem and negative thinking. Most previous articles in the emotional championship have cleared dirt, now it's time for something positive.
Finding true satisfaction
Happiness. What everyone is chasing for. The final goal of all we do. New car, new hot boyfriend, handsome husband, money, latest hardest sport, latest fashion? Are they goals in themselves? Probably not. What are we looking for in these things or people? Happiness.
How do we enjoy every moment? How do we increase our satisfaction? How do we feel truly alive? There are many ideas about this, here I will discuss what has worked for me – how I went from a depressed, angry person to happy happiness.
The body is not a machine, it's your temple
I think there's an existing tendency to treat your body like a machine. This trend is everywhere, from television shows to the doctor in the gym to the company. Make X reps on this built-in shortcut of Y kilo. Put this in your body to counteract pain, do this to counter these diseases. Put this in the body to have fun.
The body is not a machine, though it may be like one. It's your temple. Although the body is not yours, it's a big part of you and your life. But many neglect it for other things – their career or a good evening out sometimes. You must take care of it. This is hard to do and I'm guilty of this once but you have to experiment.
This is a simple common sense, but given how many unhealthy, unfit people are out there and how many people abuse it, it's worth saying again. Take care of your body.
Health is a pleasure; It's no good to have another luxury if you're not healthy to enjoy it.
Now, on a fun part. The body is also a source of pleasure. It gives you pleasure and is the source of joy. Read on.
Looking at the wrong places
When I was just from my youth, I used to congratulate all kinds of ways. Including some of the extremes that many others went to – drugs, sex, alcohol, fast cars and extremists. (I suppose boxing and punching in my head is a special sport – I have never tried to jump or jump.)
At the beginning of the twentieth century, I tried some "mature" activities – constant boyfriend, romantic cruises along the beach, jazz music, night in the living room with the boys.
Do they window? Yes. They raised my happiness, but it's all temporary. People have a "set point" happiness. Certain events and assets, such as unexpected winds, may rise or drop for a while, but soon we will return to our settings. The key is to raise the set point as well.
Why does this only work temporarily?
They Make You Feel Really Alive
It's a common theme in everything I've described above. Almost everyone has tried to find satisfaction and happiness with these. They make you all the life alive, that you are doing something unusual. You feel alive and alive and time looks like a warp. Sometimes time is very slow. Sometimes you wonder where the hours went.
I do not say everything they are bad (drugs are); but the rest is fine – assuming you do it in law and in moderation.
The reasons people experience is better or better than others are because:
a) It's exclusive – does not happen often.
b) Facilities: Someone (community, television, peer pressure) told them it's going well.
c) The feeling is great.
It's probably more than they are all similar. These reasons, which are artificial distinctions made in your mind, stand between you and bliss. Remove them, and you would be as happy wash dishes as you are to love!
Let's deal with exclusive first. This feeling is artificial intelligence! You must realize that every moment is unique and exclusive, because when it's gone, it will never return. We just think that certain moments are special because we do not experience much, or we paid a lot of money to achieve it, or it happens only once a year, or something. This distinction is something that is created by your mind.
Next is the situation. What's the difference between finding the keyboard and the mouse at your fingertips and finding the skin of your lover with your fingertips?
What's the difference in wind when you're in your yard and the wind when you're fastest down the road in the second half million dollar convertible sports car?
These are all artificial intelligence as well. You think it's better when you find winds in a sports car for a myriad of reasons. – Social status, how rare it is, how much better is your car next to other cars on the road, how many hot blondes look at you as fast as you can?
Would you feel good if you drove down the motorway in the same car every day for ten years and the same people look at you for ten years? I'd get sick of it, but again Hugh Hefner does not. I do not know. (I've read that he's really depressed, though it makes some guys better.)
Finally, the real feeling you experience. For most people, certain feelings are more enjoyable than others. Soft silk sheet will feel better than rough. Even in sex, everyone has certain wishes in affiliates, places and so on.
Again, these emotions are made ready by your mind! There will be people who have a rough sheet and not a silk sheet. There will be women who want Jack Black over Brad Pitt, and over and over again!
Your mind has worn certain things in the "wonderful" category, some in the "super" category and others in "dreary", "never again!" and so on. Other people have broken the same things into different categories. There is no specific rule of what is good or what's bad.
Happiness and pleasure all start in your mind
Others have traced certain attributes to certain actions. For example, some people can acquire precise sex, and they take pleasure in the close and not actual act of sex itself. Others get pleasure from sex just from physical feelings. Again, there is something totally made up of your mind.
If you want close sex, imagine remembering that he or she has betrayed you before. Most likely, pleasure will disappear immediately. But what has changed? Nothing except your perception of the event, inside your mind!
One Way To Get Happiness And Pleasure
So: If all happiness and happiness start in mind; How do you get into this state of mind? By opening all the senses and the feeling with all your body.
Let me explain further. I believe that parachute jumping gives you a rush because for those very wonderful moments your senses have all been turned to the maximum. It encourages you to use all your senses. It opens the senses in a way that they have never used before in your daily life – and therefore they feel special to you.
Very nice to wash your dishes!
If you open all the senses all the time, will not it have the same effect? All the colors will look more alive. Every feeling will be fresh. When you wash your hands you will find the water over your skin as you have never experienced before. It will look like the water from a waterfall in an exotic holiday resort. You will find the heat during the summer, you will find the cold in winter, and you will find everything much better and enjoy it.
Note: This does not apply to something that is physically painful – it is about other articles in the emotional masterpiece Urban Monk.
Take a page of meditation – you are informing yourself
Meditation can be classified into several different types. Some empty the mind. Some emphasize their awareness of one thing (their spirit or spiritual image for example). Another category is to increase your awareness and your senses as much as you can and this is what you are doing. Unless you're doing it 24 hours a day, and that's maximizing your enjoyment!
And more, meditation has been used as one way of giving up just about all the main ideas of thought or religion in the world. By maximizing your happiness, do you actually consider 24 hours a day and take steps toward enlightenment and free from pain and sorrow!
I'm not informed (yet hehe) but I've noticed serious lasting changes to the mood and happiness of the day since I've started practicing. Much has been written elsewhere about other mental and physical benefits of meditation as well.
Raise Your Baseline Happiness
Remember the foundation of "setpoint" happiness I spoke about? The best way to increase happiness is not seeking temporary joy. Instead, I recommend meditation to increase your happiness. Of all the methods I have tested, meditation has had the best effect.
I have read countless other methods but can not write about them, because I have not tried them enough to recommend them. When I get to them, and they work, make sure you know about them.
What about satisfaction?
Now on the pleasure of temporary events. There is nothing wrong with them, despite everything we have talked about. There are many ways to increase this happiness.
In an older order to overcome pain, the main thing was to remove you from pain. It's not you, there's something inside you. Watch it. Make the change from "I'm in pain" to "It's a pain in me". Check what effect it has on the body, check what it's like; just watch it, do not judge it, or respond to it. (Read the row again if you do not know what I am talking about).
I did a little experiment – I tried to make it funeral. Surprisingly, it actually reduces the pleasure. My little attempt was sex – so I left the information in my imagination.
But try it next – no matter what it is: It's separate from you. Try not to see it as "I feel good!" But rather, "There is happiness inside my body." See if it works for you and if it does not happen, you're still good!
This must also go
"This must also be", a testimony that is often said to someone who is in pain or suffering. It helps to reduce pain. By telling the man, the pain will not last forever, and it's only fluid, the man no longer knows the pain. There is another way to help them make the change from "I'm in pain" and "It's a pain in me."
What about using the same happiness from temporary events? For example, if you see flowers and it's beautiful, do you feel prompted to eradicate it and take it home with you? If you see a beautiful sunset, do you want to take it with your camera so it lasts longer? If you find a dream lover one night, do you try to keep him or her forever?
Beauty disappears when you try to capture it forever. If you look at the flowers you've taken every day you might get sick of it, or you may no longer find it beautiful. You may call it unanswered or have another theory of why this is so; but I think trying to keep happiness reduces it.
Knowing that happiness and pleasure from temporary events will take place soon lets you open your senses and enjoy being at the moment. Your attention is no longer moved by thinking about how to capture it, you simply allow everything to be and the joy deepens.