If you are a woman and either consider divorce or when going through the process, you need to read this article. Why? Because divorce is an emotional process in a commercial decision. Whether you have been married for 6 months or 40 years, you invest a lot of you emotionally. You have probably made this marriage to believe in death, you share. Suddenly you see that your life can not be with this person anymore.
This can be overwhelming. You may feel feelings of anger, confusion, unfaithfulness and / or sadness. This can be expected, but you can over it. You can learn to strengthen yourself and do the best in difficult situations. You must make decisions, some of which can cause strong emotions, such as dividing up assets, based on who wants to get the house and deal with child protection issues. These decisions must be made with a clear head and not overwhelming heart.
If you are considering divorce, or even if the divorce has already been registered, you need to take care of yourself (and children if any) first and foremost. I suggest you consult with the budget and family of lawyers. Even if you choose to take care of the divorce, you want to make sure your finances are secure when the divorce is completed. You want to make sure that you know your rights. These experts can be assets when making decisions that will totally affect your future.
If you find the need to hire a lawyer, consult only for legal purposes. Too often, I hear about women who turn to their lawmakers every time they treat their spouses, crying their shoulders (literally and graphically) and seeking emotional support. What many people realize is not every time a lawyer is in contact, they are charging you, regardless of that. This can lead to high court fees, which will be taken from your part of the settlement. If you need assistance, seek help from friends and family. If you do not have a good support system, seek advice or support from women. Use these stores, as they will be cheaper and cheaper than a lawyer for this purpose.
Advice can be useful at this time. A good therapist can be objective, but you receive the strong emotions you will experience, what cloud is your judgment. A consultant will also help you to develop lifestyle changes that you will be dealing with. Some women's concerns have stated that they can afford advice at this time and their confidential data.
I suggest you pay for the non-pocket treatment. You may be asking: "Well, if I'm on insurance, why do not I want to use it?" You can use insurance and are all entitled if you choose to do so; However, there are potential negative consequences for using insurance benefits. First, your counselor will decide whether you meet the criteria for mental disorder to be able to use your insurance, as cards require "medical need" to be eligible for benefits. If you are qualified, this diagnosis of mental disorder will be submitted before each meeting to the insurance company. If your divorce is not secret or your spouse is being aggressive, he and his lawyer can try to appeal files to work their case. Do you want these items from the insurance company? This entails the confidentiality of paying out of pocket.
By paying your consultant directly, the paper path is deleted. Your consultant needs to keep records by law but these files are kept confidential and can only be issued by permission, court order or imminent emergency such as suicidal thoughts or abuse of children. So the likelihood that your partner will learn your advice will only occur if you provide such information.
The next question might be: "I want to pay out of my pocket, but I can not afford it." What can I do? "Advice does not have to break the bank. You can go to various consulting companies and search for counselors that fall into your way, such as PsychologyToday.com and Counsel-Search.com. If this seems too high, you can contact the regional mental healthcare and petition resources, most communities have low-cost centers where consultants that are licensed under the supervision of qualified professionals can provide good services.
Remember divorce is a business decision with emotional impact. Do not let your feelings hinder your ability to take by yourself and your children. Look for the support you need now and end up in a better place where the divorce is closed.