"Functions can not always be happier, but there is no happiness without action." – Benjamin Disraeli
I think we live in very exciting times when it comes to our understanding of what makes us very happy in the long run. Until reliable recently (well, about 10 years ago) there was a general perception of personal development, and self-growth was directly divided into the middle. One half of the camp assigned the theory that "we are what we think" and that we can be powerful beyond the scale if we choose, but the other half will roll their eyes and can hardly hide from covering their dirty "trap!".
I remember my own internal conflict at the moment. While I was impressed with the idea of working on myself and a spiritual path, I would help myself to cut an amazing future – and it has; o) – at the same time there was another part of me that was just out and out of science. I was willing to do as I had said to many philosophers and the default expert of the day but I would also like to know that there was a solid foundation for investing my trust in the principles I was studying.
Ideas like practicing daily gratitude and forgiveness enchanted me. Yes, it seemed very good when I did, but I was good at wondering if I was really a happier person or if I was just experiencing some "nice" feelings.
Sometimes I'm such a good spokesman for positive psychology; Now officially recognized science of how truly happy people must be truly satisfied. Thanks to the work of the organization, Dr. Martin Seligman (and many others since), we can not only continue to believe in the long-standing principles of personal development and spiritual sustainable care, but now there is a lot of experience to support the fact that these principles really reinforce our longstanding happiness.
Here is one of the most interesting things I have learned about the nature of happiness (look for the glorious book of Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky's "Happiness Happiness"). Having studied extensively under strict scientific conditions, psychologists can decide that the happiness we experience in our lives consists of:
50% Genetic "Set Point"
With clever exams (too clever to go into here !! ) It has become clear that half of all happiness we believe is due to a natural default level that is different for us each. This means that without anything happening, we will always return, at least, to the initial value of our happiness, after our lives have been shaken in some way (good or bad). It seems that some of them are better off track than others. It may also explain why some do not seem to be as excited about exciting events as we think they should do!
Staggeringly, only 1/10 of our experience of happiness is because the circumstances of our lives are. I can almost find opposition from some of you as you read this! (I know it was first with me). It seems quite anti-aggressive, but if you are used to living in a moderate manner, you earn a lot of money, only a temporary boost to your happiness at best. If you have always benefited from health, a dose of long-term illness will not necessarily make you miserable. Abandoning the slaughter to be better seems more often than not, that's not all that it's crazy. This is because it is in nature to adapt to environmental conditions very quickly. It is called "hedonic adaptation". Remember when you were very excited to buy something new; maybe a car, suit or even your house. Remember now how fast the item was found like other natural details of your life.
40% Random Activity
The desired activity is what we consciously make a decision to participate in. Depending on what this activity is, we will either experience an increase in real happiness or simply hang out about our default setpoint. What the research has uncoovered is that the happiest people in the world are the ones who make use of this 40% by doing regular things that help their spirits and help them look at their lives positively. By avoiding immersing themselves in any activity that acts as a reminder of what is really important to them (see suggestions in the homework section below), they are literally studying their neurology to "just be happy."
We can not control our genetic points and the change in our way of life is likely to bring our happiness up or down by 10%, but we have the ability to choose the quality we put our efforts and attention to. The good news is that it's 40% that can make the most wonderful difference to our overall survival.
The story of the story probably does not stop following all the good things you want in your life (more money, bigger houses, better cars, promotions, etc.). But do not expect those things to be the happiness you are looking for.
Create a list of content you have recently requested (including external performance indicators like power and status), since you have believed that they would make you happy.
Just like an experiment, for 30 days commit to stop working to get them and, instead, deliberately engage in one (… or some, … or all !!) of This daily work:  Gratitude – At the end of each day think about what you are very grateful for (people, things, talents, opportunities or something you think about). Make sure you connect emotionally with your gratitude.
Social Relationship – Plan to spend more quality time with your friends or find ways to enhance your social circle. Have fun.
Love – Do something every day to make a positive difference to someone else's life (it's important to do this out of love and not because you expect someone instead, o). A powerful way for you to benefit from this is to perform charity anonymously.
Health and Wellness – Make your own well-being a priority and do what you know to do better to think about yourself. Do not have to be a strict fitness period; might be more sleep, drink more water, take the stairs rather than lift, eat 5-day, etc. It is important to focus on respect for your body and soul.
Nurture Important Relationships – Treat the most important people in your life as they are the most important people in your life. Identify the areas of relationships you have been neglected and focus on strengthening these bonds.
Think – Make regular time to be quiet and still. Find some relaxing music or get a guided meditation card to help you, but whether you get a new talent to be present only at this moment.
Forgiveness – Define people, circumstances or events that you have kept frustrated. Do what you need to do, let go, thanks and forgive. As Mark Twain once said, "Forgiveness is the fragrance that shone purple on a cure that has crushed it."
By the end of 30 days, go back over the original list of "wills" and give an honest assessment of whether you want them and if so, please note if your attitude has changed around what you expect them to be for you.
Do you want great happiness!
Caution should be exercised. Namaste.