Most people want to be happy. That's good because the Dalai Lama says that the purpose of life is to be happy. I'm sure there must be more than that.
We all know it's not easy to be happy. Routines of concern, robbery and other disturbances make happiness after thought. Trying to keep wolves from the door leaves little time to worry about being happy. But if you've ever worried about your happiness, I found the book for you. It's real happiness: Use of new positive psychology to realize your prospects to keep on fulfilling (The Free Press). The author, Martin EP Seligman, Ph.D., wrote bestseller, Learned Optimism. He is a prestigious university psychologist.
He is a pioneer in what has been called "Positive Psychology" which has to do with good things in life. Seligman's main contribution is to provide research tips on what metaphysics would call "New Thought," meaning that you can make a difference in your life if you only think that you can act and act on that thinking. He calls it "automation", which means the idea that you can be successful. And he does not like the idea of "original sin", so it's ok to tear you up with your own boots.
What is happiness? It's not just mood, but a way to experience, a way to believe. It's optimistic. More than that is the strength. He likes examples from research and shows that happy people can hold their weapons in a bucket of water in ice longer than depression. Happiness is a pain. Happiness has a survival value.
Seligman is not a lot of spokeswoman. Studies have revealed that money and health, for example, make people not happy. There are many healthy people who are unhappy. Living in rich democracy, on the other hand, is better than living in the poor dictatorship that his research has found.
One of the enemies happiness is to take things as a course, which can constantly raise the bar for what you need to get the happy button pushed. Gratitude for what you have can be a great option. Seligman has found other factors that support happiness, qualities that you can develop. Forgiveness is one, as well as optimism. Both free man from the past. Studies show that an individual can learn optimism by, for example, acknowledging and arguing with his own pessimistic thoughts.
Happiness here and now is very important. To Buddhism and other philosophers, now is the whole time we have. Being happy at the moment gets support from accepting the simple enjoyment of life, enjoying the meal, savoring the moment, and above all, paying attention! You do not need to practice meditation to develop "mindfulness" but it can help.
Virtue is your own award, but it can also provide additional resources to be happy. Seligman and his colleagues found six studies six virtues common to all spiritual traditions: wisdom, courage, love, justice, mindset and transcendence. He began to study "personal strengths", as he called them, or "the way" to these virtues, and learned how people could achieve and enjoy these kidding happiness. They are humor, perspective, interest, perseverance, kindness and self-management, to name a few (you can rate your own personality on their website at http://www.authentichappiness.org ).
Seligman research shows that work will not make you happy as long as it's just a job you do for payroll. Congratulations are those who can approach their job as a "job" and make good work fulfill themselves.
What about love? When Seligman found 100 very happy people, 99 were involved in stable romantic relationships. He believes we can learn how to have a successful relationship by developing some of the strengths mentioned above. He emphasizes the special emphasis on learning to be attentive listener.
Seligman concludes his survey on behalf of happiness Through the discussion of spiritual, which he sees as a sense of connection and cooperation with something bigger than himself. Although it is the fastest growing industry, an investigation into the role of mental health and happiness at birth. So Seligman philosophizes.
Nevertheless, intelligent design is creative, even if the existence of a designer is uncertain. As we develop and become more intelligent in our quest for happiness, the world will be better, because the greatest happiness for each of us depends on everyone to be happy. By consciously dedicating ourselves to happiness, we become part of the development process that would make the designer feel fulfilled. Do not worry because happiness is a divine destiny.