Why is search for happiness waste of time? Why is to bully on very happiness illegally? Why is happy bird happiness just a nice idea?
a. Because happiness is not hidden … like a rare emerald in a magic stone stone goddess … somewhere out there in the jungle of life.
b. Because happiness is an abstract noun … not focused. It's impossible to "stumble" happiness or even plug tones on it. It's not content … that's something natural.
c. Because happiness does not come from bluegrass … no matter how happy you are to see one.
What is the "happiness"?
Happiness is not art … that's skill. And like all the skills, it is learned through training. All the art is nothing but a very spherical skill.
Is not the artist's talent that makes a two-dimensional image drawing like it would be? Does it not author a well-organized phrase that creates strong emotions or ideas in you … or let you buy things you do not need . And happiness is not a gift … freebie from God. A woman prayed sometime … "Please God made me happy." God answered … "No! I will give you blessings … but happiness is up to you." We must choose happiness … or unhappiness if we choose.
And it brings us to the heart of the matter … the way to happiness.
How Happens Happens?
It does not just happen. Happiness is what you get after you make certain things. Happiness comes from you. It does not have to be practiced as if your life is apart from you … and was running out somewhere.
The first thing you need happily comes from Abraham Lincoln who said: "People are as happy as they decide to be." So happiness begins within you … not with someone or something else. What is the best time to decide to be happy?
Anytime is a good time. You may be depressed even or stressed when making a decision … like starving Scarlett O & # 39; Hara who never decided to be hungry again … as she tore a carrot out of the ground.
What is the next step after you make a decision?
Well first you need to test if you have decided … or just wish. You can tell the difference because the wish is idle and must be grateful to someone else … as Snow White lives to save (even Sleepy and Dopey knew how to get out of the woods). Unlike a request, a decision leads to personal actions . You are responsible for making your decisions real … even if you get help from others … like the Olympics do.
Is the decision enough to be happy?
Only the first step … you have to make another decision to perform the first. What will make you happy? Here are some people falling into the traps to confuse end by the way. Some say to conquer the lottery … or meet the lover of their dreams … will make them happy. But it will not … money … people or things themselves do not produce happiness. You need something else.
What Scrooge are you?
Scrooge in Dickens Christmas dress made a money end in itself. His soul was shriveled in miserly misery … and he generously donated from his great unhappiness every opportunity he received.
Scrooge found true happiness when he realized his dreams that he could use money as a means … as a way of expressing … not gaining … happiness. And he ordered to send a big juicy turkey from the slaughterhouse to the Christmas party in his poor office office.
But it was not the gold money he threw down on the boy … and told him to keep the change … or the turkey that made Scrooge happy. He was already happy for he did this. So where did his happiness come?
It came from pure gratitude .
He had another opportunity in life … an opportunity to warm the world about him and then to find his deep own good natural soul … and celebrate there.
With the gratitude … the Kravit family would have liked him even without the Christmas eve. Gold mint and turkey were conclusion his happiness … not the cause. And gratitude is why the poor Cratchits were so happy. Lack of luxury of life … they were grateful for each other. If anyone ever calls you Scrooge … just ask them who? … before or after his dreams.
So … to be happy, you have to do some things …
First … you have to understand that only you can make your own happiness … the world does not seek you to do you happy. The giant in the lottery is not looking for a ticket.
Secondly … you have to decide to be happy because it will enable you to do what will create happiness in your life.
Third … all happiness feathers from gratitude . Gratitude for friends, family, people who love you, people you love, good neighbors, your pet, whatever you have, what assets do you have.
How will someone be grateful?
Gratitude is a habit … and there are dozens of opportunities every day to practice it. And they are all easy. When someone encourages you to combine in front of them on a crowded highway … thank them with a wave and smile … the smile develops a habit of being hot to others. When someone lets you go through the door first … thank you listen to a smile helps you develop gratitude. Do it all day … with all the opportunities you get. Gratitude is the right kind of dispute to pay to someone … a servant and a king like. Within a week, you will be grateful for the moment you open your eyes in the morning … and as you close them at night. And it's important to develop this gratitude because …
Your values begin to change and evolve and to open up new aspects of life to test you. You start to understand better what really will make you happy … and you invest your time there. You easily explain what's important and what's a small matter. You will be patient with you and others. Others seem to like you more … you seem like other people more.
So if you want to find a way to happiness … stop chasing it … start creating it yourself.