Everyone wants to experience happiness and kindness in communicating with others. We start our marriage happy and in love with our partner. We bring our children into the world and surround them with love and care. We offer kindness and compassion to our friends.
The thought of being ignorant or unloving or uncaring to any of these important people in our lives is inconceivable. However, these relationships that started with expectations of love and happiness more often end in sorrow and conflict of negative energy produced by strange behaviors.
As we have spoken in earlier versions of this newsletter, the unconscious primitive trait of an inner child who lives inside us is a perishalistic focus on "self" to worry about others' feelings. In other words, kindness toward others, or concerns about their happiness, are not very high priorities for our primitive ones.
The primitive self's narcissism would not be a significant problem if it were not for the fact that " every adult person who lives today is totally unaware that his primitive trait is unconsciously controlling almost all
When we combine the narcissism of our unconscious primitive self, who manages our daily behavior, with the reality that every choice and behavior we make unconsciously or unconsciously creates a result or outcome, it is no wonder that we often make unknowing work and unhappiness in our relationship.
In other words, if we choose to twist the threads of love and kindness in our relationships with others, the result will be to create a life surrounded by love and kindness. When we choose to wrap the painful narcissistic primitive self-esteem in our dealings with ADR a obvious unity will be the creation of life surrounded by unhappiness and inability.
We are all fully responsible for threads that are woven in the subject in our relationship with others. There are times in all our relationships when we can not feel loved; especially when we are tired, by surprise, not feeling well, or misguided. It is therefore important to know that the love and compassion, the kindness that each one engages in our relationships with others, should never be based on feeling. Love is not a feeling, it's behavior . So if you want to have love and compassion with others, you'll need to choose "to show good and affectionate behavior regardless of how you can feel emotionally .
Simply put, because each of us creates our own lives and the quality of our relationship, one choice and one behavior at a time, "we" are very responsible for the creation of the world we live in. Teaching Others For Consequences of Our Own Behavior and Our Decisions are a good example of our involuntary entrepreneurial rumors at work; common form of ignorance based on lack of self-awareness and self-knowledge. It's like asking the neighbor across the street to take aspirin because we're headache.
If we choose to build our behavior on how we feel, we may more often than not choose to hurt and hurt our relationship with that person. The real risk of contact is never the pain and inability we create at the moment; it's an unfortunate reality that unloving and unkind behavior can quickly become harmful addictive habits in what connection; addictive habit that is often very difficult to change.
As a counselor in personal training for twenty five years, the majority of the associates who came to my help were looking for ways to cure the pain caused by years of seamless behavior towards others. Unfortunately, many of these couples were not breaking the long habits of unkindness and regaining the love they share once; The pain of ignorant behavior towards others simply showed too much to overcome.
To summarize, because love and kindness is behavior and because the commitment to being "loving" always is the basis of all healthy and happy relationships, we must always be ready to choose "be" loving towards others; regardless of how we could find ourselves at the moment.
Being "loving" in our relationship with others means that we must be willing to embrace and practice three important spiritual practices.
First, we must learn to own our own feelings. No one can make us feel something that's not already in us. It's a human nature to want to blame others for our feelings, but Jesus reminds us that we need to deal with the radiation in our eyes before we worry about the special of our partners.
Another spiritual exercise is a deliberate growth in self-awareness. To deliberately show kindness and happiness in our relationship with others requires the ability to look in when life is not going as we want it to go. Again, it's a human nature to want to teach others, especially those who are close to us, when things are not going as we want. Everyone wants to change a world, but it's a rare person who begins to take ownership of the problem and works to change himself first.
The third spiritual exercise is a simple reality that only "we" can create our own lives and we make it one choice at a time. Again, it's a human nature to want to teach others what we've done or failed to do. If we want love and compassion in communicating with others, we need to be happy with our childhood, regardless of our environment now, regardless of how loving or unloving others might be, to offer love and compassionate behavior those we choose to be in touch with.
The gold thread of these three important spiritual practices is beyond the talent of the primitive of the self. Only when we are prepared to grow in self-awareness and strengthen our beliefs, we will find strength and wisdom to turn these spiritual practices into our lives. Good spiritual growth and growth in self-awareness are the same. We can not have one without the other.
The principles of kindness and love that we take in relation to our relationships with others are important because we divide day by day all day into our lives to gather many threads of love and kindness that we will use in our textures . If we succeed, our text will reveal the invisible love of the Creator and it will give in to the spirit of the Spirit.
We will have learned to embrace and show truly genuine spirituality.