I once said a fellow i loved my love for me was the icing on a cake, but the love for myself was a cookie myself! I was very pleased with me as I was, and all other attention, although most people were happy, I mostly thought as a bonus, not the main course. He was rather surprised at my statement and interpreted that I do not really love him, but it was actually the opposite. I was able to love him a lot by loving me first.
I was not always like this. My own love has been a gradual and painful process. I love myself as I do, I could thank him in full with all his shortcomings and faces and allow us space both to develop as an individual and as a couple. If I expected his love to make me happy we would not be long for too long because one or both of us would gradually depend on the others dressed like limpets for our happiness until the relationship becomes a monastic or victim of resentment and envy .
Someone To Finish
I've noticed that too many people looking for affiliates tend to say they're looking for someone to "& # 39; They laugh & # 39; or "They're Happy and # 39; Yet, each relationship should have two 100% whole people, not two helmets who seek someone else to finish them! We are all of us are looking for happiness of one kind or another. It is essential for our well-being, but this vague, yet important factor – happiness – we often associate with people and material things seems to be a path in our lives. We never seem to have enough happiness at all times. It always seems to be threatened, even when we actually have everything we want. But nobody or an outside thing can always make us happy because happiness is not a destination we work with. We can not postpone happiness until we get a new job, a new house or a new man or woman.
Happiness is a state of mind based on our sense of worth ; an emotion we would have when we wish how much our selfishness and positivity in our lives. If we feel good, we are unstoppable. It takes little to make us happily because happiness becomes an integral part of our lives. We are pleased with ourselves, so we feel good about others and our world. If we look little love for us, especially when we have not been grateful grateful or with any value in our lives, happiness will continue to conceal us. We will always find the fraud in some way – unwanted, insignificant and excluded.
Happiness is the greatest indication that we are happy with our body, identity and progress. We have a tendency to see the world as a challenge & # 39; instead of being a problem "# 39; Others can share them happily, sometimes increase it somehow, or even reduce it temporarily, but they can not create or maintain it for us. Only we can do it. we must be happy in the first place; we must be happy before anyone else can share it.
That's why people who tend to be a misery keep it forever, even if they sometimes feel happy through an external source. Such states are not permanent because it is not based on self-love. It is formed by someone else. the pain at rejection is twice hard to bear and even confirms an unwanted state. As soon as the problem is or the wedding party has passed, drag Pump back on the old path to sadness or complaint because unhappy men are generally dissatisfied with themselves and their world . They will be in the state forever if they do not make serious efforts to change from within and recognize the magnificent unique individuals they are.
How do you feel today? Is happiness dependent on someone else's attention or behavior? Is it dependent on the next event or next exciting asset? Or is it really masking what would really make you happy?